Is It Love Or Plain Feelings??

LOVE – a big word now a days which now has so many different meanings and definitions that I don’t know if the real meaning actually exists or not. Love Is spreading like a virus now a days where people who just met 2 days back suddenly find that they are in love. And than if you ask them how many times you have had relationships they will start telling you from the days of the school how they have been falling in love with changing boyfriends or girlfriends( as they say) every year or so.

GIRLFRIEND – the first thing when a guy says this word the meaning a girl, whom he is in love with I mean please tell me what do you call a girl who is a good friend of yours “LADYFRIEND”. And the same goes in case of guys. I mean everything today is never considered normal it is always given big names as crushes and infatuations and if not more falling for each other.

You go out with a friend (Girl in case of guys and vice-versa) of yours outside and the first thing that crosses a person’s mind is that maybe the girl is the one whom he loves. I mean don’t we love a friend just as a friend. Many people have a mindset that if a guy is going out of his way to help or do something that means the guy has his eyes on that girl. For god sake cant there be love between two friends for I believe there are things what a friend can do for you not even your lover can do it for you. You love your parents your sister do you have different definitions for that kind of love. When will people understand that the love is just the same for everyone the difference comes in the feelings we have for them. You feel differently for your parents than you feel for your lover. You feel differently for a friend than you feel for your sisters or brothers. The love is always the same. Love has no caste, no religion and above all it has no limits. You cannot quantify as to how much you love your parents, your brother or sister, your lover or your friends.

Today two people say that they are in deep love with each other. Well I may not be that experienced in love but I at least know that when you are in love with someone the first thing you will do is accept the person as he or she is. Second you would do anything humanly possible to keep that person happy. I mean how a person can afford to watch tears in the eyes of a person with whom you are deeply in love with. How can you get angry at the person you love ? how can you take the other person for granted. At least I believe that the person you love at least takes a priority above your own self if not your family. I mean if I had fallen in love with someone I would do anything to keep the smile on her face, go out of my way give her as much time as I could , skip my gym if I had too, throw away my sleep. I mean I have seen people saying that they will relax and then go and meet the person they love well I don’t know doesn’t just seeing that person in front of your eyes give you the relaxation of your life.

I have seen couple fighting each other saying that the other has gone irritating. If it’s a boy he will say she keeps on calling every two minutes and wont stop talking. I mean I would have loved to hear the voice of the person I love no matter how much she called. If it’s a girl she would say he just doesn’t have time for me he doesn’t do things the other person does for his girlfriend i say if you knew that why does one fall in love in the first place for I believe in love you accept the person as he or she is and you never try to change him because you always liked the person you fell in love with than why do you want that person to change now.

I have two of my friends whom I love and care the most in this world and yes I don’t have any problems in saying that they both are girls. And I can bet that I do love them even more than their so called boyfriends. But no, love between two different friends is always termed as lovers why cant they be friends like I told before it’s the feeling that differs one of them is the most closest friend of mine and will always be whether someone likes it or not and I don’t give a damn if someone has problems with me calling her with sweet names like “ANGEL” or “SHONA”. It’s a person’s viewpoint how he or she perceives it and if that friend of mine has any problems with it I have given her that much right that she can say it on my face I don’t want to know from any other friend what she likes being called or not. But if a friend can’t understand that the other person has a different feeling for someone I don’t think any relationship can exist because the first and most important thing in any relationship whether of lovers, friends, family or any it’s TRUST. And if you cant even trust the other person you never ever had a relationship. And then one should listen to what your heart says In this matter because you heart will always tell you the truth and not other people if you know your relationship with your friend is pure you will never ever listen to any other person’s comments as to how you should treat your friend.

I have no problems in saying that I have always loved my family, friends the same way but yes with different feelings. I hope people or at least the young generation understands this and changes as what has been the orthodox mindset of many people.