Choices!!

Every day we are met with times when we have to make choices. Most important is the choice of making a decision between right and wrong. For some people choices may be good and for some it may be the most difficult thing in this world. For example how good it is when you get choices in a question paper when you have to select 5 questions out of 8. And the same way it becomes the other way round when you have to choose between a Ferrari and a Porsche. Choices today govern every part of your life you make a choice everyday whether to get up in the morning for exercise or not, whether to go to school or college or for your job every morning some people also would like if they have a choice of taking bath everyday or not.
Some people have to make a choice between their professional life and their family. Some make a choice between a love marriage and a arranged one. After 10th we take a choice between streams and then between your profession. But the most important thing is to take the right decision and choose what’s best for you.
My point of telling you all this is because like me many of you must have made choices in life where you compromise or take decisions that may or may not favor you. Even I had to make choices when it came to my personal life and my professional life. Sometimes you have to give up the thing that’s dearest to you for your and your family’s benefit. Someone once told me “ Deepaish you have a choice to think either from your heart or from your brain and sometimes you have to do what your brain says that follow your heart because your heart will always tell you to do which will always please you “. I never forget these words because in my last few months I have really made a lot of choices some of them really being the crucial ones where I have to even give up my feelings for the ones whom I love the most but I know now those choices were for the betterment of all. Today people even have a choice to help others as some of my friends had. But it hurts when someone who once made a choice to help you doesn’t give you a choice to help them back. I mean I know people have the choice to govern their own lives but who gave them the choice to decide on how others should govern their lives. I have seen people who make their own decisions on what others should do or not I mean if a person can’t accept help from others why does he or she does something for other so that the person is in debt for his or her entire life.
Our heart is the one who always weakens us when we have to take hard decisions which concern our future for example ask yourself what stops you from telling things to the ones who care for you its your heart that makes the choice for you for one may feel that he or she may let himself down in the eyes of other. But here one forgets that god gives you choice here to trust the other person. A girl will get the choice of finding out whether the boy she loves is right for her or not and vice versa, a person already working on a project has the choice to take another project or not, one even gets the choice to do what his heart wants or to do something which his family wants him to do. Compromises are important but to what extent that is for you to decide. I have seen people making compromises so that they can go to any extent to keep the ones the love happy but in all this they lose their own identity.
The bottom line is to make the right choice and think whether the choice you are making should be the one which should never make you repent back in life in the future.Remember right choice means a good decision and thus leading to a better future!!!!

Patience!!!

I wonder how people have the ability to get under your nerves and no matter how much you try to be patient and not to get angry you loose it. Today I am staying alone at my dad’s apartment trying to manage my own life as I feel everyone should do. Patience is the name of this game. There was a time when I couldn’t stand listening to my bro or my sister for they have a uncanny abiity to irritate you to your farthest extents. Their questions are such that you just tend to loose your patience no matter what happens. Yesterday when my dad left for ferozepur by brother started asking questions to me like “did Bua( My Mom) also came along” I answered him “ no, dad was on a official visit”. The very second the second question came up “ wasn’t Harman(my sister) there with FUFAJI??” I said I told you my dad was an official visit here why will Harman come here with him isn’t it but obvious. But no it did not stop here he just went on and on till the time I lost my patience I screamed at him. After that I felt sorry for him and realized wasn’t I the same during my childhood. I realize now how much patience did my dad had to keep when I was a child to answer my meaningless nonsense questions.

Today while I am staying alone I give myself time to look into my past to realize how silly I have been all the way down my life. I realize now and feel sorry for my friends who had to listen to my utter nonsense while I kept talking and they patiently used to listen to me. There were friends of mine who used to say “ Deepaish you are now irritating me?” but now looking at the past I realize that how childish I was. Just as a child does something or the other to gain attention from others I used to do the same thing whether its talking all crap to my friends or talking about something which isn’t even humour. Just like a child who is dependent on elders for support I always asked for support from everyone whether it was my friends or family. It was as if I was scared to say alone due to which I used to go to any extent to keep them around me.

Now I realize my mistakes and am changing so that I can be a different person now. I realize now that my priorities were in the wrong order. Being an “emotional fool “ as my friends you to say had made me very soft at heart due to which I had started accepting everything that happened around me as my own fault. But now I am learning to be patient wait for the right opportunity, setting up the right priorities. And I am quite successful in it at least for now now I just want to be a different person, the one who cannot be so soft at heart. I have to change for its good for me and people around me. This is the time when I can learn from the mistakes I have done In my life. It is time to change !!!!!!!

Relationships!!

Hi today I am writing this blog not to tell you guys something but to ask you some questions. Questions which are related to my life and may be in some ways related to some of your life too. I am a person who values a relationship a lot whether its with my parents or my friends or my brothers and sisiters. I believed that a relationship exists more due to the emotional bonding we have for each other but is it actually true? Does money, job and your status effect your relationship more than your feelings?

I was surprised when my elder cousin sister who is 1 year older to me but is younger in terms of studies as she is still in her final year said that now a days every relationship is based on money only. I was hurt when I heard my sister whom I really liked say that she ahd been having grudges against me. And for the reason that I was not able to give her anything during raksha-bandhan, that when I went to sims it was an achievement for me but I did not give her a party for that. She said that I was a miser and that I never wanted to spend a single penny on them. She said that everyone who is with me feels the same way. Is that true?? This is the question I have been asking myself.

When I was in school till the time I was able to treat my friends with pastries or patties everyone used to be friends with me. Were they friends because I used to spend money on them and here I used to think that they are my very good friends. At college I once said no to give a full contribution to a dinner where my room amte had called a lot of friends as I could not afford it is that the reason he did not speak to me afterwards.

Since the day I remember I have always tried to bring happiness on everyone’s face even at the cost of making a mockery out of me but I always failed to bring that happiness to my parents they used to be angry at me for sometimes they were ashamed at me for I was never good at studies but my sister was they used to say “ his son has topped in his class and what should I say that my son hass barely been able to pass”. Is it that my being an average student always let them down. I remember the only time when my family or my parents introduced me was when I into symbiosis for than they had something to say. Now when I want to complete my dream as a choreographer they say that it’s a waste of my life they want me to make a life in corporate field they call my interest a wastage of time and money.

My parents say that even your friends are going to leave you whom you are so proud of if you don’t do well in life. Are they?? I am confused at this because somehow I have a feeling that they are going away from me. When I was in college me and my friends used to chat at all time even at night than we parted it came to phone calls but at least they were everyday but now when I see it we don’t speak for weeks and sometimes for months. The same has happened with my closest friend once it was a time when she used to speak to me daily and I used to listen to her but now she doesn’t feel like telling me anything that she is going through. And now how helpless I am when I am not able to help them when they need me nor my friends nor my family.

Have they lost confidence on me?? Don’t they trust me anymore?? Is the thread that binds our relationship getting weaker day by day?? Is my sister true for calling me a selfless worthless git who cannot do anything for others . I don’t know what to do now I am confused and scared. Am I actually going to loose everything that I care for that I love the most!!

Smile!!!!!!!!!

I always ask my friends, my family to keep a smile on their face but some do get irritated sometimes but how do I make them know them that how a smile changes you and the environment around you. Some of my closest friends have a very beautiful smile and they don’t know but when they smile the world just becomes more beautiful may be after reading these lines they may understand.

Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody's heart.
A smile happens in a flash, but its memory can last a lifetime
There are hundreds of languages in the world, but a smile speaks them all
Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy
A warm smile is the universal language of kindness
Smiling makes you feel better about yourself, even if you don't feel like it. And it always makes other people think better of you.
A smile is a light in the window of a face that signifies the heart is at home and waiting
Life is like a mirror, we get the best results when we smile at it
You are never fully dressed until you wear a smile
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks
Beauty is power; a smile is its sword.
Keep smiling - it makes people wonder what you've been up to
Peace begins with a smile
Every tear has a smile behind it.
Keep a smile on your face and let your personality be your autograph
No matter how small, a SMILE on your face tells all
What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity
Smiles are unbreakable- -and mend broken hearts
Smiles are great investments: the more you collect, the better you feel
Be multilingual; smiles are the universal language
A laugh is a smile that bursts
A smile is just a frown upside-down
A smile is as nice to give, as it is to receive
Most smiles start with another smile...
Though Smile cannot erase our burden, but it sure does make us feel lighter...
So Just smile pleaseeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!