Today this post of mine will contradict some of the posts i have written before. But what to do? There are some of the things that happened in my life which made me rethink about a lot of things. In this post i am going to tell you some things which will let you rethink about friendship. I who is very lucky to have some the best friends in my life am amazed at what i have seen in the past few months. I have seen tides (people) change as if they never were meant to come in that very direction. I makes me think how people prioritise their importance in this world. I have two sets of people in front of me one who will give you importance and will always hold that place for you and one who will give you importance and then suddenly take that away from you. In my friend circle I have seen example of both kinds of cases. It amazes me how your closest friends stop giving you any importance at all. How suddenly you have done nothing for them. How suddenly a single person in their life who came just months back takes over the priority above your years long friendship. How suddenly you can’t find time anymore for those whom once you called the closest of all. How those who promised to stand by your side the entire time, their promises are nothing more than meaningless words to you.
This entire realisation came to me when I met with an accident. Yes for those who don’t know i had an accident a few days back but with god’s grace I survived with just scars and bruises and nothing serious. But there when i was lying on the bed at the hospital i wanted my closest friend to be there besides me. I couldn’t talk for i had a injured lip but my ears were aching to hear her voice. Days passed i began to recover thanks to one of my childhood friends who helped me but in all that i waited for a single call from the one who was supposed to be the closest friend i ever had. But that call never came. I remember one day i had actually asked her if something happens to me will you come and see me and that time she said yes she would. Days after i got recovered i met her and she came to know i had met with an accident she screamed at me why didn’t i tell her about it. Maybe it was my fault i should have told her even though she never called herself i agree how else would she ahave come to know but i ask one thing what if i hadn’t survived that accident than who would have told her but i left it to me for i knew it was pointless. But in all this i realised that my importance in her life has gone down where my existence as a friend doesn’t matter to her.
Yes if some of you think i am wrong! Yes i agree i may be wrong because yes as i told you i have got friends from the other side too. There is another very close friend of mine. She is getting married in December and i am really happy for her but she on the other hand even being far away from me gave me calls everyday till i recovered. Even she has a special someone in her life. But she never allows any of her closest friends to feel as if their importance has gone down. Whenever she gets time she makes sure she calls me and give an update of what was going in her life. I learnt a lot from her as to what good friends are i am not saying that my closest friend isn’t good i would say she is the best. But this is for all the people who are about to get married or are seeing someone i would request you one thing. See after some time you are going to spend your entire life with that special someone but your friends will just be there in memories with you. You might get to see them once in a while but the bond that you shared before will cease to exist the same way as it used to. So it is my word of advice before you settle down in life be sure you have strengthened this bond enough so that it remains with you all your life!!!
