I miss those days!!

I remember some days back I was going by Punjab mail to Bombay when I saw a mother and son playing cards in the train. The boy’s mother was trying to teach him how to play “Patte pe Patta” and “Rummy”. It was so amusing to watch both of them play, the boy trying to win anyhow and his mother playing childishly with him. It just made me remember those old days and the coincidence was even my mother taught me how to play both of these games when I was a kid in train. Seeing those two I could just imagine me sitting with my mom and playing cards with her. Laughing to my full extent when I win the pile of cards, feeling sad when I was loosing all those lovely feelings all of them came back for once I just wanted to bring those memories back. I remember when my dad used to come home and we all used to play carom board and than my sister used to cheat we used to have a fight, dad laughing at the scene, mom getting angry. God we were so innocent at that time. We all used to come after swimming mom used to make cool cold coffees for us with ice cream on it ummmmmmm….. and than we all used to be watching cricket matches together. Those were some days or say my beautiful moments with my parents.

But now everything is so different, the whole environment has changed we have changed, I don’t remember when was the last time I had so much masti with my parents, when is the last time I had a hearty laugh with my family. Now a days we laugh but it is more of everything in a formal manner, we do masti but we should do it in a appropriate manner for now it’s the question of our reputation outside, we should not act childish because we are adults now, 22yrs old now working and earning so you should be disciplined have a attitude of decency in yourself. Nowadays you should see what you are doing for you should think what the world would say if they see a brother and a sister fighting if they see them running around in the streets trying to catch hold of each other no there should everything be disciplined. We don’t enjoy the way we used to, we don’t dance, we don’t listen to music as we used to before.

Why??? I ask this to myself sometimes I feel it has been my fault to a very large extent but then that should not make a person kill the child inside him or her. Today for people the enjoyment is watching tv in an air-conditioned room having a big house having a car to pick you and drop you. Having the luxury of a cook who makes your food having ten people around you to do your work is that what enjoyment is in now a days time??

I don’t know if growing up means loosing the child inside you forever getting serious in life as if just earning money and doing the job is a part of your life I don’t want that kind of life. What’s a job if it doesn’t allow you to spend time with your family, what is that life where your reputation comes in between having fun with your family, what is you if you cant even smile at the life you are leading and the family you have.

I just want those old days back if growing up and progressing in life means loosing all this I wish I just don’t grow up at all!!!!!!!!

Importance Of Friendship!!

Today this post of mine will contradict some of the posts i have written before. But what to do? There are some of the things that happened in my life which made me rethink about a lot of things. In this post i am going to tell you some things which will let you rethink about friendship. I who is very lucky to have some the best friends in my life am amazed at what i have seen in the past few months. I have seen tides (people) change as if they never were meant to come in that very direction. I makes me think how people prioritise their importance in this world. I have two sets of people in front of me one who will give you importance and will always hold that place for you and one who will give you importance and then suddenly take that away from you. In my friend circle I have seen example of both kinds of cases. It amazes me how your closest friends stop giving you any importance at all. How suddenly you have done nothing for them. How suddenly a single person in their life who came just months back takes over the priority above your years long friendship. How suddenly you can’t find time anymore for those whom once you called the closest of all. How those who promised to stand by your side the entire time, their promises are nothing more than meaningless words to you.

This entire realisation came to me when I met with an accident. Yes for those who don’t know i had an accident a few days back but with god’s grace I survived with just scars and bruises and nothing serious. But there when i was lying on the bed at the hospital i wanted my closest friend to be there besides me. I couldn’t talk for i had a injured lip but my ears were aching to hear her voice. Days passed i began to recover thanks to one of my childhood friends who helped me but in all that i waited for a single call from the one who was supposed to be the closest friend i ever had. But that call never came. I remember one day i had actually asked her if something happens to me will you come and see me and that time she said yes she would. Days after i got recovered i met her and she came to know i had met with an accident she screamed at me why didn’t i tell her about it. Maybe it was my fault i should have told her even though she never called herself i agree how else would she ahave come to know but i ask one thing what if i hadn’t survived that accident than who would have told her but i left it to me for i knew it was pointless. But in all this i realised that my importance in her life has gone down where my existence as a friend doesn’t matter to her.

Yes if some of you think i am wrong! Yes i agree i may be wrong because yes as i told you i have got friends from the other side too. There is another very close friend of mine. She is getting married in December and i am really happy for her but she on the other hand even being far away from me gave me calls everyday till i recovered. Even she has a special someone in her life. But she never allows any of her closest friends to feel as if their importance has gone down. Whenever she gets time she makes sure she calls me and give an update of what was going in her life. I learnt a lot from her as to what good friends are i am not saying that my closest friend isn’t good i would say she is the best. But this is for all the people who are about to get married or are seeing someone i would request you one thing. See after some time you are going to spend your entire life with that special someone but your friends will just be there in memories with you. You might get to see them once in a while but the bond that you shared before will cease to exist the same way as it used to. So it is my word of advice before you settle down in life be sure you have strengthened this bond enough so that it remains with you all your life!!!